Blogging has changed a lot over the past few years. I remember back when I started blogging I was a beauty fanatic and was popping into Boots monthly to use my saved lunch money to buy the whatever was the latest craze in the beauty world. I really didn’t blog frequently or take my blog seriously back then (hence I don’t count it as the “official” birth of Skylish as a fashion/beauty/lifestyle blog), but a few months in, a mail popped into my inbox which was from someone asking if they could post a link on my blog in return for £20. The thing is – I had known that you could earn something from blogging, and I was totally aware that people were receiving free things, but I really didn’t know the mechanics behind it and also, blogging wasn’t yet what it has become today. I was so bewildered about this person offering me money in exchange for a link that I showed the e-mail to my dad who did a full inspection of the proposal. In the end, I accepted it, and just like that £20 popped into my PayPal account which – at the time – was a week’s lunch money. So, it was pretty mad.
A question for the bloggers – how do you react when someone you know in real life tells you they read your blog? Most of the time, it sends me for a very split second into a mini state of shock. It’s just a little reminder than – oh yeah – this thing is public. I’ve had people recount to me what my day-to-day looks like and how much sleep I get, I’ve even had people recount to me what my favourite types of sausages are, because I’ve written it here at some point. Don’t get me wrong – I absolutely don’t mind it – I’m an open book on this blog. Around a year and a bit ago I decided to set a goal and direction for my blog to help me better anchor my posts – and that goal was that I wanted my blog to help other girls (& guys) navigate through life’s many twists & turns by sharing my own experiences, giving advice and really, just opening up my life and what I get up to a bit more. Although it’s not always at the forefront of my mind, before I hit publish I will always take into account the fact that people I do see in my day to day could be reading, and make adjustments if I need to and occasionally, just scrap entire posts completely. There’s a balance to be met – being open and vulnerable allows your readers to connect with you and in some cases makes way for your blog to serve a purpose (depending on what purpose you want your blog to serve), but at the same time if you go overboard you could end up hurting people in your life, sharing details that actually do not need to be known and in the rare case, going so overboard that you end up being booted from your job (it happens).