When I was 12, I had my first “boyfriend”. This successful relationship lasted for a grand total of ~24 hours. I had had a crush on the guy when I first started secondary school which soon wore off, but a few months after I stopped liking him he decided he’d start liking me and well – boyfriend and girlfriend it was. I broke up with him after 24 hours because I didn’t like him and even more importantly, because I spent 24 hours in a perpetual state of fear that somehow my parents were going to find out I had a boyfriend and I most definitely was not allowed to. What did I learn from this mini “relationship”? Probably that there’s no point making someone your “boyfriend” just because they like you – it’s probably good to consider whether you actually like them too, right?
I’m 23 now, that’s c.10 years since then, and I’ve learned a few more things in that time…
I wrote a post in 2017 all about my own personal battle with confidence. Having “confidence” was something that plagued my life since I was very young, and it wasn’t until my very early 20s (well, I’m only 23 now), that I really started to come into myself in this area, and it stopped holding me back so much. I mentioned in the post that the main thing that helped me eventually gain confidence was time, but there was a lot more to it than that, and today I wanted to go into more depth about how I crawled out of my whole of shyness and self-doubt to get to where I am now! Granted, there’s always more to learn, but in just a few years I can tell you that I’ve totally changed into a different person.